Sunday, January 24, 2010

What would you do if you found out you had a sibling you didn't know about???

One of my followers asked the question "If you found out that one of your parents had another child that you didn't know about; would you want to have a relationship with that sibling and how would you feel about your parent not telling you?"

I can't really speak on this from personal experience... well not completely. But I will answer it to the best of my ability and hope it helps. I have to believe this is becoming more and more common now-a-days. This is a very difficult subject, so I hope we can get some feedback.

Like I said, not being in that situation... not that I know of! I think I would want to have a relationship with that sibling. It's not the siblings fault that your parents did not make you aware of this. It is your blood. People are people and what builds bonds with people is not blood but experiences. If you meet a person that says they are your brother or sister. You are acutally meeting a stranger . It is a roll of the dice if you decided to proceed. Could this person enhance your life or be like "Gator" from "Jungle Fever". You dont know because at the end of the day this person is a stranger to you. It may bring resentment towards that parent, so I guess it would depend on the relationship between your parent and the siblings parent.

My parents are still together and have been together over 40 years and there is a strong possibility that I may have a sibling out there that i don't know about. I once had a girl contact me on Myspace and say that she knows my father... she procedes to tell me my father spent so much time at her house she called him dad. I have also seen my father a couple times in public with someone that wasn't my mother.. I was torn... I did not know what to do. Should I tell my mom or should I keep my mouth shut.

As long as I can remember my parents never had a strong relationship... it's been more of a living situation. I think my mom has her suspesions, but she doesn't say anything... they just go on living their seperate lives. I kept my mouth shut. So back to the question. How would i feel? Confused. I guess it mostly depends on the relationship you have with your parents and the relationship your parents have.

I do know a few people that have siblings they didn't know about and have developed relationships with them and maintained the relationship with their parents.

1 comment:

  1. Being an only child, in my younger years,I guess my first reaction would be to be resentful. Today, I think I would welcome it. As a child I would worry about normal childhood things... would they be taking from me in some way? Would I have to share something, anything? It isn't that persons fault and as a mature adult I would look forward to the new beginnings; a niece or nephew a friend.