Monday, July 20, 2009

I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T

Do you know what I mean? You have your own car and your own house... And that is a beautiful thing!!! But does that make it more difficult for you to find a mate? I believe a lot of men date dependent women because that allows them to feel like a man... because that is what a man is suppose to do... take care of his woman. Now if you are an independent woman that can be intimidating to a man. Ladies... let's be real... the male ego can be very fragile. If he is unable to do the things for you that you can do for yourself that might make him feel like less than a man. So, if you are dating a man and you make as much or more money than him... It is VERY IMPORTANT that you allow your man to be a man. Do you think Black men are controlling? You ever wonder why? Face it... being a Black man in White America is not easy. Most likely he is not in control at work... So he wants to be in control when he gets home.

Now Mrs. Independent, you must be careful... because they are men who will try to take advantage of your situation. He may move into your house and sit on the couch with Craig and them playing Playstation 3. Or drop you off at work and drive your car around all day. Or have you buy him things. If you are comfortable with that... then do you boo boo. But if you happen to come across a man and you make more money than him... but he is gainfully employed, work with him. Beside every strong man is a strong woman. You may be what he needs to take his game to the next level and if you haven't noticed we are in a recession. But if you can combine 2 incomes that will allow you to do bigger and better things and live the American dream. But that's only Trey's Opinion!

1 comment:

  1. YOU CAN HAVE ALL THESE THINGS BUT IF U DON'T HAVE ANYONE TO SHARE THESE THINGS WITH, THEN IT MEANS NOTHING AT ALL. MOST WOMEN ARE IN THIS SITUATION AND FEEL WHY THEY HAVE TO BE THE DAMSEL IN DISTRESS. IT IS NOT FAIR FOR A WOMAN TO SCRUTINIZED BECAUSE A MAN FEEL HE IS THREATENED BY HER SUCCESS IN LIFE. IF A MAN MAKES MORE THAN ME AND HAS HIS LIFE IN ORDER, IN MY EYES IT ONLY MAKES HIM MORE ATTRACTIVE. I WON'T SHOOT HIM DOWN FOR THAT. MEN WHO FEEL THAT WAY SHOULD CHECK THEIR EGO. THIS SO RIDICULOUS. I KNOW THERE ARE WOMEN OUT THERE WHO WILL THROW THAT THEY ARE INDEPENDENT AND THEY HAVE THIS AND THAT AND THEY DON'T NEED A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF THEM. MISS INDEPENDENT AS THEY CALL THEMSELVES.THOSE ARE THE ONES THAT ARE LONELY AS EVER OR THEY PICK MEN WHO THEY HAVE TO FIX UP OR MEN WITH NO AMBITION( CRAIG AND THE GANG SITTING ON THE COUCH WATCHING JERRY SPRINGER) BUT WHAT CAN WE DO BUT KEEP LOOKING UNTIL WE SOMEONE THAT IS COMPATIBLE
    MUCH LUCK TO EVERYONE IN THEIR SEARCH

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